I took the test suspecting I might be a bit of an Aspie but scored a lowly 17 – very surprised! Expected to be borderline at least. I’ve always felt like there was a gulf between me and “normal people” and generally find them stressful and problematic to deal with. A bit like being a Jew in Nazi Germany (although not quite that bad!) – continually needing to hide my “jewishness” because if the normals find out I’m not one of them then bad things will happen. And they do. Things like making small talk and keeping a conversation going with strangers or people I don’t feel any connection with (. almost all people) is very hard and stressful. Often in an attempt to do my duty and keep the conversation going I end up saying silly or strange things (because i have to say something and can’t think of anything else), then they conclude I’m a weirdo. So of course I try to avoid being in those situations as much as I can, which means avoiding my fellow man for the most part. And I really don’t like looking people in the eye – it just feels inappropriately intimate. I look at their mouth instead, to focus on what they are saying.
It upsets me a lot if my routines are disturbed, especially if it involves doing something spontaneous. I find it very difficult to do more than one thing at a time, and do frequently get so strongly absorbed in one thing that I lose sight of everything else.
Sounds like Aspergers, right?
But then there is a bunch of other stuff which caused me to get a low score on this test:
Despite what I wrote above, I actually find normal people quite interesting – the stuff they get up to is often interesting and amusing. I quite like going to parties once in a while, as long as i can quickly get drunk there so that whatever i say isn’t expected to make sense. More fun than going to the library for sure. For the same reason I would rather go to the theater than the museum. As for reading fiction, I loved that as a kid and would like to read more now in middle age but feel too guilty about taking the time for it. Then there were questions about numbers. No I am not fascinated by dates or numbers. This is not because of lack of interest or ability in math – I’m a professional mathematician with phd and a bunch of research articles. Just not very interested in numbers for their own sake. It’s the cleverness involved in deriving mathematical theorems that attracts me. And I can’t even remember my own telephone number, let alone anyone elses.
As for relationships, most ladies want a normal guy and they can quickly tell that I don’t fit the bill. A few of them are more broadminded though, and with those I have a chance. So i had a few relationships, but much fewer than a typical normal guy. Have now been married (mostly happily) for 15 years. My wife is Asian (I’m western), and I think the cultural difference together with the fact that my wife has a few (charming) quirks of her own makes her less aware of and focused on my own non-normalness. It helps that I’m pretty much ok at reading people, caring and feeling empathy (I think). Besides my wife I have no real friends, just a few friendly acquaintances who I might exchange an email or two with every few months. I like it that way.
Thanks to everyone who contributed to this thread. Reading the comments was very helpful in thinking about to what extend I might be an Aspie (although I still don’t know the answer to that).
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